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...as told by Melissa Olsen, Birth Doula
(Our doula Melissa now operates Operation Doula Care, which provides free doula support services to the pregnant wives of U.S. Military men (Active Duty, Reservists, National Guard, Coast Guard) that have been called up, deployed, injured or have become deceased as a direct result of Operation Enduring Freedom.)
We kept in touch and on April 14th, 2001 I received another email, which read, "Not pregnant yet, but just started seeing an RE in Bethesda. I just had a bunch of bloodwork yesterday so we'll see if it reveals any clues." Four months of trying so far!
A few more emails and a few more months and then I received this email from Trish, "Guess what??? WE DID IT!! I'm pregnant! Due date is Feb. 9, but I wouldn't be surprised if it went a little earlier." I was so happy for Trish and John! We scheduled to meet in October. Obviously Trish and John asked me to be their doula or I wouldn't be writing this, huh?
As a doula, I take birth notes during the hours before a baby's arrival. Here are my notes from Steven's birth. I did elaborate on some of them as I remembered more and more. But, for the most part, this is exactly what I wrote down as the events of the day unfolded in front of us.
7:10 a.m. - I arrive to hospital. Trish gets into the hospital bed with John's help. Nurse Elizabeth assigns herself as Trish's nurse because she remembers being Trish's nurse when Diana was born. Trish and John are happy to see Elizabeth. Elizabeth is in a hurry to get Trish admitted. Trish is wearing purple. I'm wearing purple. Trish's chair is purple. I look to see if the nurse has purple on. She doesn't. I didn't even bother to see if John had purple on. There are a couple of other nurses here helping to get Trish admitted and ready for surgery. There are electronic fetal monitor belts around Trish's belly, a blood pressure cuff around her arm, an oxygen reader on her finger, an IV trying to be placed (there have been 3 attempts already) and a thermometer (in her mouth, of course). Nurse reads Trish's birth plan out loud, back to us. Trish tells her nurse that most of the birth plan doesn't apply and that she should just skip down to the C-section part at the bottom. I don't think Nurse Elizabeth heard her as she continued reading. Referring to the birth plan, nurse Elizabeth says, "You want low voices? Well that's too bad, cause you got me!" We all chuckled and Elizabeth told Trish and John that she would do her best to follow their wishes.
The nurse is having a hard time with Trish's IV. "Three strikes and you're out!" says Trish to Elizabeth. In walks a medical student and he wants to know if he can watch Trish's C-section. Before she can answer him, Elizabeth breaks in because she has forgotten to get some of the blood she needs from Trish's IV and for some reason is starting her search for the 5th time. Trish says, "I can give you a couple of clues on where to find my veins!"
8:10 a.m. - John's mom sticks her head in the room to let us know she's here.
8:20 a.m. - Dr. Downing is here. He places a pillow roll under Trish's knees. He is very quiet otherwise. We talked about John going back with Trish for the preparation part of surgery so he can help move Trish properly. Dr. Downing thought that would be a great idea.
8:30 a.m. - Nurse Elizabeth taking more notes and asking more questions.
8:50 a.m. - Trish is getting a physical exam by Dr. Jo. Trish explains some aspects of CP to Dr. Jo. Someone from Trish's work calls to see where Trish is. I think they must've called her home and not the hospital?
About 9:50 a.m. - I'm brought back to surgery and have my camera in hand. Trish is on the surgery table asking for a mirror or a way to see her baby boy come out. The staff helps her with that. John sits to the left of Trish and stays as close to her as he can. I ask if I can stand up to take pictures and the staff is fine with that. Everyone is getting excited! Trish's pain control is good right now. I take a couple of snapshots before surgery begins.
By 10:15 a.m. Steven has had his blood sugar tested and it came back a little low. The nurse (still Elizabeth) has insisted that Steven go to the newborn nursery for a feeding. Trish and John try to discuss this, as does Dr. Downing, but it seems this nurse isn't going to budge. Out Baby Steve goes and out Daddy John goes behind him. Next goes Trish - it's time to cry. Cry for her baby, for her pregnancy being over, for the pain she will go through in the next couple of weeks, but mostly for her new baby boy. How she wants to be with him! Dr. Downing says he will do his best to get them reunited as soon as possible. I stay with Trish and massage her forehead as she's getting a headache now. I feel bad that Steven needs to go to the nursery over what really could be handled here in the operating room.
1:45 p.m. - John went to get Steven because his blood sugars were climbing up to the normal range last time we checked. When I walk in from eating lunch, I see Steven is snuggling with his mommy and Trish is wearing a huge smile on her face!
I left the hospital a few hours later, but not until I witnessed extended family members offering support, a little girl turned big sister experience the wonder of a tiny sibling, a loving new-again father shine with pride, a new-again mother soaking in elation that her newest babe was finally in her own arms and a sweet babe all bundled with a wonderful world waiting for him.
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